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I missed National Coming Out Day yesterday, but I'm pretty sure most people reading my journal already know that I'm dating a sockpuppet that I'm bi.
Am I the only one out there who feels the paranoid need to qualify "bi" with "but I'm dating/married to/etc. a person of the same gender" in fandom discussions lest people decide that I fail to meet their standard for sufficient queerness and dismiss me as a poser? Or is occasionally tempted to lie and say they're lesbian/gay instead of bi, because then people would be less likely to assume you're lying?
The weird thing is that, IRL, I feel awkward about correcting people's "so, when did you realize you were a lesbian" etc. statements with "actually, I'm bi, not a lesbian," because I'm afraid it will sound like I'm backpeddling ("But I like boys, too! Really!"), but it never occurs to me that saying it will cause anyone to think I'm secretly straight.
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Am I the only one out there who feels the paranoid need to qualify "bi" with "but I'm dating/married to/etc. a person of the same gender" in fandom discussions lest people decide that I fail to meet their standard for sufficient queerness and dismiss me as a poser? Or is occasionally tempted to lie and say they're lesbian/gay instead of bi, because then people would be less likely to assume you're lying?
The weird thing is that, IRL, I feel awkward about correcting people's "so, when did you realize you were a lesbian" etc. statements with "actually, I'm bi, not a lesbian," because I'm afraid it will sound like I'm backpeddling ("But I like boys, too! Really!"), but it never occurs to me that saying it will cause anyone to think I'm secretly straight.
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