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I missed National Coming Out Day yesterday, but I'm pretty sure most people reading my journal already know that I'm dating a sockpuppet that I'm bi.
Am I the only one out there who feels the paranoid need to qualify "bi" with "but I'm dating/married to/etc. a person of the same gender" in fandom discussions lest people decide that I fail to meet their standard for sufficient queerness and dismiss me as a poser? Or is occasionally tempted to lie and say they're lesbian/gay instead of bi, because then people would be less likely to assume you're lying?
The weird thing is that, IRL, I feel awkward about correcting people's "so, when did you realize you were a lesbian" etc. statements with "actually, I'm bi, not a lesbian," because I'm afraid it will sound like I'm backpeddling ("But I like boys, too! Really!"), but it never occurs to me that saying it will cause anyone to think I'm secretly straight.
Also, I probably did about a week's worth of coming out at NYCC, while standing in line for the LGBT Comics/Creators/Characters panel. Every three minutes, someone would come up and ask "what panel is this line for?" and someone in line would have to say "This is the gay people line. For the panel about gayness. The LGBT etc. panel." It was kind of nice that there were so many people coming that there was a line, though. Both the seanchai and I and several of the people in line around us had anticipated that there would be hardly anyone there, but instead the room was so packed that there were people sitting/standing along the walls. Weirdly, the part of the panel that struck me the most was actually the panelist who worked for Archie comics, which apparently recently added a gay character. I initially thought "Well, that's nice, but who actually reads Archie comics?" but then later that same day, the Publisher's Weekly booth was raffling off an Archie comics book, and a steady stream of children of both genders came up to go "Oooh, Archie! Can I enter the raffle?" and I remembered that kids read Archie comics. Lots of kids, apparently.
NYCC was lots of fun. The Avengers cartoon was spectacularly awesome, more so than I suspect even the movie will be (for one thing, unlike the movie, it had Jan and Hank in it) - I loved how many old school Marvel villains were in it, everyone from the Wrecking Crew to the Mandrill. And the Thor/Jane Foster scenes were adorable. And Nick Fury was perfect (Maria, take command of the helicarrier while I go hit people. You think I'm dead but ha, tricked you, it's an LMD.)
The cap_ironman meet-up on Sunday was especially awesome. iambickilometer, xturncoatxii, usullusa, seanchai, grey_bard, and one other person whose username I forget because I suck all came, and we went out to dinner afterwards (we may also have run into insomniac earlier in the day - reportedly he was there and wearing a Max Lord costume, and we did in fact run into a guy dressed as Max while booth-sitting).
And... we got Steve/Tony and Carol/Wanda art commissions! (G-rated ones). I'll be posting the Steve/Tony one to the comm as soon as I get it properly scanned in.
Am I the only one out there who feels the paranoid need to qualify "bi" with "but I'm dating/married to/etc. a person of the same gender" in fandom discussions lest people decide that I fail to meet their standard for sufficient queerness and dismiss me as a poser? Or is occasionally tempted to lie and say they're lesbian/gay instead of bi, because then people would be less likely to assume you're lying?
The weird thing is that, IRL, I feel awkward about correcting people's "so, when did you realize you were a lesbian" etc. statements with "actually, I'm bi, not a lesbian," because I'm afraid it will sound like I'm backpeddling ("But I like boys, too! Really!"), but it never occurs to me that saying it will cause anyone to think I'm secretly straight.
Also, I probably did about a week's worth of coming out at NYCC, while standing in line for the LGBT Comics/Creators/Characters panel. Every three minutes, someone would come up and ask "what panel is this line for?" and someone in line would have to say "
NYCC was lots of fun. The Avengers cartoon was spectacularly awesome, more so than I suspect even the movie will be (for one thing, unlike the movie, it had Jan and Hank in it) - I loved how many old school Marvel villains were in it, everyone from the Wrecking Crew to the Mandrill. And the Thor/Jane Foster scenes were adorable. And Nick Fury was perfect (Maria, take command of the helicarrier while I go hit people. You think I'm dead but ha, tricked you, it's an LMD.)
The cap_ironman meet-up on Sunday was especially awesome. iambickilometer, xturncoatxii, usullusa, seanchai, grey_bard, and one other person whose username I forget because I suck all came, and we went out to dinner afterwards (we may also have run into insomniac earlier in the day - reportedly he was there and wearing a Max Lord costume, and we did in fact run into a guy dressed as Max while booth-sitting).
And... we got Steve/Tony and Carol/Wanda art commissions! (G-rated ones). I'll be posting the Steve/Tony one to the comm as soon as I get it properly scanned in.