Hiya els ::hugs:: I've made the argument before but generally only in quality of writing like "I normally wouldn't see this pairing as working in canon and it didn't appear to come out quite right in this fic maybe ___X___ would improve that or maybe trying a different perspective?"
of course for every single time I've found myself leaving that comment there has been at least a dozen or more where someone finds a way to make a very non-canon or even shaky canon pairing ~work~ for me through the quality of their writing and story.
It kinda fits with my you can have your OC's if you can manage to make them characters and not Mary Sue's ALOT of writers struggle with the difference or jump to it is an MS because it's an OC but recently I've been reading a fic the person only posts to their own LJ for fear of being hung by the fandom for OC'ing and yet it is one of the best quality fics to appear consistently in that fandom for the past few months. The adherence to canon is fantastic as are the connections of the characters making it humourous but not "and now she is an amazing acrobat and hero too and and and-"
More ON the topic though I was in a relationship on and off with a good friend from the time I was 7 years old when he naively declared he would marry me on first sight. He was my first kiss, only friend for a number of years prior to highschool, and an all around good guy. We had our fights- round highschool he got convinced that the wigger thing was in and tried to use that language in making out.... only to find a freezing towel thrown on his bits. We are still friends- the sex never CHEAPENED what we were *the brief dalliance on his part into drugs certainly did for a time*.
In our case rather than your though Els- we found at the end of the day we 'loved' one another but it wasn't world shattering or anything just a quiet phillia that occassionally ran toward eros. He's now a snowboard instructor in Vancouver and I'm back at school so we have officially decided on seeing other people (his new Gf is ADORABLE- and she doesn't drink or do drugs <3).
Re: sex as demeaning
of course for every single time I've found myself leaving that comment there has been at least a dozen or more where someone finds a way to make a very non-canon or even shaky canon pairing ~work~ for me through the quality of their writing and story.
It kinda fits with my you can have your OC's if you can manage to make them characters and not Mary Sue's ALOT of writers struggle with the difference or jump to it is an MS because it's an OC but recently I've been reading a fic the person only posts to their own LJ for fear of being hung by the fandom for OC'ing and yet it is one of the best quality fics to appear consistently in that fandom for the past few months. The adherence to canon is fantastic as are the connections of the characters making it humourous but not "and now she is an amazing acrobat and hero too and and and-"
More ON the topic though I was in a relationship on and off with a good friend from the time I was 7 years old when he naively declared he would marry me on first sight. He was my first kiss, only friend for a number of years prior to highschool, and an all around good guy. We had our fights- round highschool he got convinced that the wigger thing was in and tried to use that language in making out.... only to find a freezing towel thrown on his bits. We are still friends- the sex never CHEAPENED what we were *the brief dalliance on his part into drugs certainly did for a time*.
In our case rather than your though Els- we found at the end of the day we 'loved' one another but it wasn't world shattering or anything just a quiet phillia that occassionally ran toward eros. He's now a snowboard instructor in Vancouver and I'm back at school so we have officially decided on seeing other people (his new Gf is ADORABLE- and she doesn't drink or do drugs <3).